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Category: Meditation

Do You Self-Generate Happiness?

Hello everyone. This is more of a personal post that touches on a realization that I had just in the last 4 days of doing Kriya meditation and affirmations. I want to share it with you, because so many people out there do not realize that they are not self generating their own happiness – but depending on outside people or things to make them happy.

I had been feeling kind of down for a few days prior and it was something I was having a hard time shaking off. Sometimes we think about all the paths our life could take with many different aspects whether its a career, school/college, love, moving to a new environment, friendships, etc. and it can feel overwhelming…suffocating almost. And these are all just thoughts, not actual things that are causing these feelings to manifest. (See how powerful our thoughts are?)

So I reached out to my friend randomly and she happened to mention she had been doing this meditation every morning and doing affirmations for prosperity and abundance…and it actually worked. There was ¬†amazing career changes for her and her husband (which had been a struggle for a few years), they barely argue anymore, things don’t bother her as much anymore because she has learned to look beyond it, and she felt so much happier and grateful for the little things in life.

This Is The Meditation Video:

Isha Kriya Meditation

I started doing it and the first time my mind was saying…jesus when the hell is this thing going to end LOL. By the second time I tried it in that same day, I got through the entire thing and the concept of time melted away until the entire video finished.

Immediately after the meditation video ended, I began doing affirmations….pretty much brain washing myself with positive beliefs. Hey, if you think about how quickly saying negative things to yourself can change your mood, why not try the opposite?

The Affirmations I Say 20 Times Each For 15+ Minutes :

  • I self generate happiness
  • I am enough
  • I am love
  • I forgive myself
  • I am worthy of all good things, including love
  • I have prosperity and abundance.

The one affirmation that I felt was eye opening for me, is “I self generate happiness.” If you’re like me, you’ve probably said “Nobody controls my happiness. I’m happy. I’m in charge of my own emotions.” Blah blah blah. Anyone can SAY that…but it takes real introspection & connection to yourself to realize when you actually do NOT self generate happiness. This can be if you feel your own happiness affected by the lows from peoples’ critiques, and the highs from peoples’ praise. Do you find your whole mood is down if someone doesn’t talk to you for a few days, and then when they do – suddenly you’re on top of the world? That signals that you do not create your own happiness.

In relationships mostly I realize now that I used to let myself get so affected by what the other person did or didn’t do. I did not self generate happiness.

A lot of times we go INTO relationships with the PURSUIT of happiness, instead of the desire to EXPRESS our happiness. Think about that. Nobody will ever make you happy if you cannot ground yourself in the idea that YOU must generate your own happiness. You will lose yourself in every person or every heart break that you have if you do not have a strong foundation first.


We are ever changing, growing, expanding…you are not the same person you were 5 years ago, let alone 5 minutes ago! I feel like a different person from just 5 days of doing mediation and affirmations. Take time to meditate, dive deep within yourself.

Affirmations are so overlooked and people often think they’re woo woo none sense. But if you can give yourself anxiety from a created thought – why not give yourself happiness from a positive affirmation?

Love and Light to you all

To Remain Peaceful & Grounded, Be Like A Mountain.

The great teacher Jon Kabat-Zinn once said, to understand and remember how to stay grounded no matter what happens on the outside, you must be like a mountain.

Picture a beautiful mountain, perhaps with a peak covered in snow. As you look at it, you can see that it has an inner core of constant peace and constant temperature, so that no matter what happens on the outside, the inside remains unchanged.

Now imagine that the seasons come and go. Summer comes with lightning, with storms, with flooding and fires, yet inside the mountain remains completely still, tranquil and calm. The summer becomes fall, with howling winds and leaves falling off the trees; then winter arrives with snow and freezing temperatures; and this too turns into spring, as the snows melt and avalanches occur. Yet, the inner core, the beautiful space deep within the mountain, is unaffected by any of these changing seasons.


We are like the mountain.

We do not have to let outside events rob us of our joy and harmony, no matter how strongly the storms rage, no matter how loudly the winds howl. We all have that inner core of calm and quiet. It is there whenever we need it or want it. By going inward, we can access its powerful healing presences. The mountain inside is perfect and so are we.

Envision now that tourists come to the mountain. They arrive and they all have opinions: This mountain is not as beautiful as ones that I have seen elsewhere. It’s too small, or too tall or too narrow, too wide. But the mountain does not care, because it knows that it is the ideal essence of mountain.

We once again are like that mountain. No matter what people say about us, no matter what criticisms of judgments they may offer up and call mirrors, we are already ideal and divine! We do not have to be affected by their opinions, even those who are close to us, such as friends or family. We are solid and grounded in the earth, like the mountain.

The words of others cannot rob us of our inner peace unless we give them power to do so. We know deep within our hearts that we are the perfect essence of a spiritual being.

Use this meditation to remind yourself and others of the magnificence that is you. Although at times we have forgotten this, we are already perfect. We have always been so. : )



Miracles Happen by Brian Weiss, M.D.



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